3 Necessary Components for the Making of a Mature Son

This article comes from Dr. Sam Soleyn in his book, "My Father! My Father!" These foundational truths will anchor you in the perspective you need to grow and mature in this present season. 


Jesus fully presented an understanding of a true relationship with God as Father. Adam’s early departure from this intended relationship to God left unshown God’s intended relationship to man as sons. Adam’s default to the culture of the fatherless provided no foundation for humankind to live in relationship to God as a Father whom he loves and trusts. The Gospels, however, introduce Jesus Christ as the Son of God and presented to humankind with the declared purpose of finishing all that was lacking with his predecessor, Adam.

The purpose of Jesus’ coming into the earth included fulfilling the requirements of the precreation covenant, but His life was also meant to fully demonstrate how the Son of God, born into the world of human beings as an infant, would progress through the stages of a human life. Though ultimately He was killed on the cross, was resurrected from the dead, and ascended to heaven, Jesus’ life provides a history filled with details about the Son of God and His relationship to His Father.


This life was designed to be a template for understanding how God relates to His sons and how sons of God are meant to relate to the everlasting Father. Jesus’ life filled the void that Adam left regarding a model for understanding the relationship between man as a son of God and God the Father. When Adam defaulted to the position of being alone in the world, without a Father, God acknowledged that Adam’s condition entitled him to the bread of his own toil. Adam’s separation from his Father also resulted in a separation from the estate designed to supply him in this way. He and his progeny came to rely instead upon the force of their own strength and their skill in the development and use of technology.

As a son of God, Adam had been entitled to the support of his Father’s house while he attended the rule to which he was assigned, and the Kingdom that he represented was sufficient to supply all of his needs for resourcing so that his rule would not be deficient in any manner. His Father would supply his need for wisdom, knowledge, council, understanding, and power, all key elements necessary for his successful administration. God would have conveyed this supply both directly and indirectly. Direct conveyance would have occurred by Spirit to spirit contact. Indirectly, supply was already present in the order and structure of creation around him, which Adam would have called forth.

The relationship of sonship, in which the Father loves the son and the son trusts the Father, is required for this order of rule and supply to function. The relationship between Jesus and God the Father shows this relationship perfectly. Although the Father remains invisible, His divine goodness is resplendently displayed through the words and works of Jesus. For His part, Jesus clothed Himself in the role of a son, affording humanity a complete picture of the order of the relationship that God envisioned when He made man as His son. Therefore, Jesus’ life is the intended point of reference for understanding the father and son relationship as God originally intended it.


Jesus’ life from the age of twelve until He was thirty years old is summarized in the statement, “Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men" (Luke 2:52.) Paul would also write about Jesus, “Although he was a son, he learned obedience from what he suffered" (Hebrew 5:8.) The Father permitted every form of trial to which a human being would be subjected to attend Jesus, while God carefully monitored His progress and gave Him what help He needed. The Father did not simply abandon Jesus to the circumstances of life until He was thirty. Jesus’ path was laid out carefully so that His sufferings and trials would install the layers of obedience necessary to sustain the pressure of His destiny. God’s intent was to prepare Him for the time of His maturity through the incidences that shaped the quality of His responses.

The things He suffered were related directly to the specific obedience to the Father required by His unique destiny. The Father’s involvement in the process is clear and unambiguous. Jesus grew in favor with God as He submitted Himself to the leading of the Spirit and to the instruction of Scripture, both of which informed His choices consistently.

God put the results of Jesus’ training on display for us to observe when, immediately after His baptism, the Holy Spirit led Jesus into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil (Matthew 4:1.) In the three recorded temptations, Jesus responded to the enemy on the strength of the word of the Spirit applicable to the circumstance. He verified that word by the use of scriptural text. Jesus restored the appropriate authority of Scripture, being familiar with the voice of the Spirit. The temptations and Jesus' responses reveal the results of the Father's deliberate preparation of the Son with full knowledge of the Son's destiny. 

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